How to Rebuild Self-Esteem When You Don’t Know Where to Begin

Self-esteem isn’t something you wake up with, it’s something that’s shaped over years by your experiences, your relationships, your environment, and the messages you received about who you were allowed to be.

If you’re struggling with self-esteem, you’re not alone. Many of my clients start therapy saying:

• “I don’t feel good enough.”

• “I question everything I do.”

• “I’m terrified of disappointing people.”

• “I’ve forgotten who I am without all the pressure.”

And as painful as these feelings are, they make sense.

Most self-esteem wounds come from:

• Criticism or unrealistic expectations

• Emotionally unavailable caregivers

• Trauma or betrayal

• Being praised only for performance

• Staying in relationships where your value was questioned

• Comparing yourself to others

In sessions, we work together to understand where those beliefs came from, and more importantly, how to replace them.

Here’s what rebuilding self-esteem looks like in therapy:

1. Identifying the origin of your self-doubt

2. Challenging the inner critic

3. Reconnecting with your identity and strengths

4. Practicing self-compassion

5. Creating small, steady wins

Self-esteem grows when you understand yourself outside of expectations, perfectionism, and fear.

In therapy, I help clients unlearn the stories that taught them to shrink and guide them toward a more compassionate, empowered sense of self.

Ready to reconnect with who you are?

Therapy offers a safe space to strengthen your self-worth and reclaim the parts of yourself you’ve lost along the way. Schedule an appointment here to begin.

I also offer workshops and speaking engagements for groups looking to explore emotional wellness, confidence, and identity.